A lot of times the journey to becoming who we desire to be might ahead appear to be really daunting, where we are in place that doesn’t look so much like our dreams ad we have no idea how our dreams are going to happen.

But don’t give up yet! At the becoming Conference, I learnt some pretty simple ways to get there!

I had a really amazing time at the Ladies of Delight Foundation Conference over the weekend. I wrote about my experience in my last blog post. This is the second part of the series I am writing about the conference. You can catch up on the first post here.

The second speaker at the Leading Ladies Conference themed becoming was Modupe Lanre-Akinsiun finished from the university with a low class of degree, a class of degree that indicated that she was less likely to lead a successful life.

Today, she is a certified John C Maxwell, Coach speaker and trainer as well as an award-winning Hr Professional who has managed operations for a leading Pharmaceutical firm covering more than 10 nations. She is a regular guest on TV Stations across the city of Lagos, Nigeria and hosts a radio show.

She had been able to lead a first class life using a first class attitude to life and work.

From the second speaker, I learnt that the first thing on the journey to becoming is actually finding out your destination.

Finding out exactly where you are headed to. Maybe not exactly but having a good idea of where you are headed.

The next thing to do is to find out what your destination requires, like for example, if you are headed to America you want to find out the requirements for an American Visa.

When you have found out some of the things that you’d need in your journey, get strategic about your learning.

Draw out a growth plan for the areas that you would need to grow and the materials that you need in that area.

So you are not just reading any book randomly you are reading books and getting materials on the area where you need growth.

On the journey of becoming, growth is really important. A lot of people say they want to grow but how badly do you want to grow?

This is because the proof of desire is pursuit. You’d have to invest in your growth. How much are you willing to invest in your growth?

Generally, we tend to pay a lot of attention to our outward appearance but ignore developing our inner parts.

Invest more in your brain than in your looks.

You must be willing to make an investment and go all the way not stop midway with your growth journey.

On our journey, we would gather knowledge, but knowledge is potential power, the difference is dependent on what we do with what we know.

On our becoming journey, self-discovery is important. Discovery is something that we best find in solitude( in our alone time) so we want to cultivate having personal time.

Role models and mentors are also important on this journey. Learn from mentors and role models and emulate what’s working for them.

Develop a good relationship with them. Don’t have a use and dump attitude to mentorship where a person is only relevant to you as far you are learning from them or you feel like you have outgrown them, so you cut off the relationship.

Develop and maintain a long-lasting relationship.

We sometimes experience inertia which is a general resistance to our growth on our becoming journey.

Some can take the form of

Need for Clarity:

A lot of times we claim that what’s holding us back is our need for clarity. Clarity doesn’t necessarily come in a place of waiting for it to come but when you begin to take steps using the knowledge that you already have.


We travel a lot faster when we travel lighter. Some of our associations may actually be weights because they are the ones holding us back.


Generally, some people are just lazy, and that’s what is holding them back. Not willing to put work or diligence into their journey.

Leadership is not about being assigned or role. It’s about what we make of what has been given to us.

The big question is not about where her we are male or female but that we can create results.

I hope you found this post helpful. This is the second part of the first blog post about the BECOMING CONFERENCE, here’s the first part.

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I’m Ife, I am the Pathfinder, I am committed to living a truly abundant and fulfilling life. I would love to help you do the same by helping you find your path. My name means Love. I am a Jesus, lover and follower.

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