2019 is knocking already and its almost unbelievable. 2018 has been a big learning year for me. The year has come with a lot of wins but a lot of losses as well. This year, I worked at my very first actual job, which was awesome, I got to learn a lot and it stretched me but I also messed it up a bit.
I spent a great deal of the year feeling bad about it, but here’s what I learnt from the experience_ don’t spend to much time obsessing about what didn’t work, rather learn from your failures, remember that mistakes are somewhat a part of our journey and what makes the experience worthwhile is the lesson you learnt going forward.
Sometimes we have such a huge tendency to focus on that went wrong rather than focus on what was good. We also need to keep in mind that what we focus on magnifies and sort of becomes our realities. I was more focused on the losses than the wins and in effect it only crippled me from moving forward and damaged my self-perception.
Focusing what is good doesn’t mean ignoring and covering up what is bad but rather sometimes what we need to do is to peel off the layers of pain, shame and regret and dig into that mistake to take out the lesson.
Still reflecting on the year, I realized that I didn’t meet some of my goals, particularly that of becoming a certified coach with a reputable institution. Well, rather than give up on it, I am rewriting it as part of my goals for 2019. There may be aspirations that you really desired to reach but weren’t able to this year, don’t just strike it out, rewrite and this time around out an action plan around how you intend to achieve this and find out why it didn’t work the first time around.
Putting pen on paper to write down a goal isn’t enough, one of the most important thing to achieving this goal is the ‘How’. How do I intend to achieve this goal . It should look something of this sort:
Increase my current income by 50% before the end of 2019
How do I intend to achieve this:
Start a small business
What kind of small business?
What do I need to start mini importation?
Who I need to talk to? Where do I need to go?
How much capital do I need to start?
How much do I intend to raise this capital
When we decide to look at this, we realize that goal setting cannot be done haphazardly, I believe this is one of the reasons why we don’t meet our goals because we didn’t take out time to properly set those goals.
As the year ends, you might catch the chatter of people talking about the opportunities that thy had in the year and how much progress they were able to make. Don’t allow yourself to feel intimidated or pressured. Remember that time and seasons they come to all men and because someone else is in that reason of their lives doesn’t mean that you necessarily have to be in yours. You might preferably want to find out how they did, rather than what they did and find valuable lessons from their process that you can include to your own journey.
Over the next few days, I’d be sharing some thoughts that can assist towards setting your goals for the coming year.
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